I don't think two creatures that need each other could be more different. Tonight's topic: Communication Style
In my version of a perfect world, a couple should talk things out. When there is an issue at hand, regardless if it effects one or both, the two should sit down (at a mutually suitable time) and banter - talk out loud, if you will - to help try to sort it all out. No answers may come of it but it gives both parties to bring up their questions and concerns. There don't have to be answers to the questions asked. The questions just need to be asked and ideas bounced around.
With the men I date, they want to have the ideas worked out in their head and the answers to the questions before the discussion ever happens.
By my logic, that means men are bent on making the decision without influence from anyone else - even if that other person may see it from an angle they didn't think of. It is arrogant, selfish, and downright stupid. It rejects the validity of another opinion and undermines the trust that a couple is supposed to share. If nothing else, it means that men make decisions on what could very well be incomplete information. That doesn't sound all that intelligent to me.
But men and women are different. Someday I'll learn...
In my version of a perfect world, a couple should talk things out. When there is an issue at hand, regardless if it effects one or both, the two should sit down (at a mutually suitable time) and banter - talk out loud, if you will - to help try to sort it all out. No answers may come of it but it gives both parties to bring up their questions and concerns. There don't have to be answers to the questions asked. The questions just need to be asked and ideas bounced around.
With the men I date, they want to have the ideas worked out in their head and the answers to the questions before the discussion ever happens.
By my logic, that means men are bent on making the decision without influence from anyone else - even if that other person may see it from an angle they didn't think of. It is arrogant, selfish, and downright stupid. It rejects the validity of another opinion and undermines the trust that a couple is supposed to share. If nothing else, it means that men make decisions on what could very well be incomplete information. That doesn't sound all that intelligent to me.
But men and women are different. Someday I'll learn...
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